DOING WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU

Have you ever bothered to sit back and maul over that?

What is best for you?... not mind you, what others think is best for you but ...

Here's a little food for thought

#14. Stop focusing on what you don't want to happen 

Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

#13. Stop being ungrateful 

No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

#12. Stop acting like everything is fine. (If it isn't, then it's not) 

It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

#11. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments (you might never have them again) 

Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

#10. Stop letting others bring you down to their level 

Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

#9. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself, but even more important - stop blaming others for your troubles 

 

Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  

You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  

So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  

When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life

#8. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons 

Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

#7. Stop trying to hold on to the past ( leave it where it belongs... in the past) stop berating yourself for old mistakes and most importantly... stop being scared to make a new mistake. 

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. 

Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. 

Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

#6. Stop trying to be someone you're not 

One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

#5.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness

 

If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

 

#4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner

 

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

 

#3. Stop lying to yourself 

You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

#2. Stop running from your problems

 

Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

#1. Stop spending time with the wrong people 

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn't have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.